I was conducting a market visit 3 weeks ago and was speaking to a young leader about the things that really made her job more difficult than it actually had to be. The one thing that she kept saying is that she was so tired of constantly having to repeat herself to get people to do what they needed to do.
She said if that was not a problem then her life would be much easier. I asked her if it might be a matter of perception. She said that she did not know for sure how she was being perceived. It was at this point that I said "Listen I'm not asking how you think your people perceive you. What I am saying is if you change your perception your life will be much easier."
As a leader "YOU" are responsible for your people. That means that the ideas you carry with you about your people are extremely important to your success. What I mean is this. If you think that all of your staff is inadequate then that is what they are going to hear from you as you speak and interact with them and that will be what you experience. If however you feel a sense of responsibility to them then they will hear that when you interact with them. Your words will carry a much higher impact on them and they will be much more receptive to you.
I have 4 kids and all of them are awesome people. They all made excellent grades in school. They all work very hard to do their best in all that they undertake. They all try to set a good example for others. Even though I am very proud of them I remember that 3 times a day, every day, for the first 12 years of their life I to tell them "Get your elbows off the table." Then one day I did not have to say it anymore. It became important to them each in their own time. Being a leader is very much the same thing. You do not have bad people working for you. What you do have are people with their own lives to live and they are each doing the best they can with what they have.
Be patient, have faith in them and keep calm. Respect them and know that your words are working even if it is only briefly each day. Eventually it will become habit, they will understand it, and you won't have to say it anymore.
Thanks for Reading!!
Carl Frost
She said if that was not a problem then her life would be much easier. I asked her if it might be a matter of perception. She said that she did not know for sure how she was being perceived. It was at this point that I said "Listen I'm not asking how you think your people perceive you. What I am saying is if you change your perception your life will be much easier."
As a leader "YOU" are responsible for your people. That means that the ideas you carry with you about your people are extremely important to your success. What I mean is this. If you think that all of your staff is inadequate then that is what they are going to hear from you as you speak and interact with them and that will be what you experience. If however you feel a sense of responsibility to them then they will hear that when you interact with them. Your words will carry a much higher impact on them and they will be much more receptive to you.
I have 4 kids and all of them are awesome people. They all made excellent grades in school. They all work very hard to do their best in all that they undertake. They all try to set a good example for others. Even though I am very proud of them I remember that 3 times a day, every day, for the first 12 years of their life I to tell them "Get your elbows off the table." Then one day I did not have to say it anymore. It became important to them each in their own time. Being a leader is very much the same thing. You do not have bad people working for you. What you do have are people with their own lives to live and they are each doing the best they can with what they have.
Be patient, have faith in them and keep calm. Respect them and know that your words are working even if it is only briefly each day. Eventually it will become habit, they will understand it, and you won't have to say it anymore.
Thanks for Reading!!
Carl Frost
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